Why do feminists have such low self esteem about their uality?

It appears that the real reason women and their uality is repressed is mostly due to feminism. Feminism rails against women being called sluts and s, saying women should be allowed to have as many or as little partners as they choose. Feminism also states that cat calls and such are ual harrment and turns the woman into a piece of meat. I've done a cat call or two in my day, and never once considered the woman as a piece of meat. I dont' understand why feminists would call themselves that. Shouldn't feminists practice what they preach, and if that means that women are allowed as many or as little partners as she wants, and to act as the ual aggressor if she feels like it, shouldn't that also be allowed for men? Shouldn't feminists just suck it up a little, and stop acting like spoiled brats? Shouldn't feminism have enough common sense that you can't have it both ways? Ok, cat calls are annoying and embarring, tell the guy to f*ck off, instead of trying to enact new laws.